Wednesday, November 25, 2015

Wise Words : Fat Girls

Some of these words come from me and some were found on Twitter. The ones regarding me have to do with an old boss making some really shitty comments to me about my body. She asserted that any comment I made about my body came from a place of self-hate, since the only reason I would make comments about my own body were to convince myself that it was ok.

Fucked up, right?

Fucked up even more, because skinny girls don't have to hear that shit. I mean, maybe skinny girls hear that they are self-involved in some way, super conceited if they embrace and comment on their own body. But fat girls? Clearly, we only make comments to hide our own self-hatred.

It was really hurtful to hear such things said about me, but it was also enlightening. But at the end of the day, I really do love my body...even though it's outside of the bounds of society's beauty ideology. Fuck anyone who wants to make me feel like I shouldn't love myself!




  1. I've seen both sides of it -- fat and relatively thin. In my opinion, the shaming comes from both sides in both situations. Societal expectations are crap.

    1. You are totally right. I had a friend who was thin enough to fit in girls' clothes. She actually bought many a Sunday church outfit in the fancy section of the girls' clothes. She and I used to joke that we'd start the A&F clothing company for those who were TOO SMALL for the regular stores as well as TOO LARGE.

      But, when it comes to my blog and my life, I try to speak about only that which I know. I know what comments I receive for being fat. I don't receive comments about being thin, because I'm not thin. So I just try to stick with what know!!!